He wanted to break the monotony in the relationship, but she simply wouldnt open up. Or make a deal with him, sounds very strong at 76. Wish I could off you more of a solution but I think things either go on the way they are or there has to be come conclusion. She know eccatly what shes doing. I enjoy sex, but I am often fatigued and have low energy. Still in love with Vicky. You may find that your perception of the situation is extremely different than theirs . We have tried everything ( I mean everything ) but nothing seems to work and Im getting desperate! Men listen carefully If your wife stopped having sex with you after marriage she will NEVER regain that desire for you. Were communicating better but no changes to our sex life even though he has plenty of blue pills. Hi Theresa, I might even know you, you sound just like someone I know. Not many people enter their senior years wit an active sex life, some do, but not many. On the other hand, another reason your wife is never in the mood may be related to menopause. Research shows that sexual communication was strongly associated with increased relationship satisfaction and heightened orgasm frequency in women. One of the scariest reasons your wife wont have sex with you may be that she has feelings or is being intimate with someone else. She doesnt complain about helping me out but intercourse is quite painful for her and I dont want to press it if shes in pain. I work, cook, clean, fix I dont drink or do any drugs. There are ways to maintain physical intimacy while someone undergoes treatment for ED. She has just lost interest. He already said she feels bad for him so she is aware of the problem. I have the same problem, my wife and I are 73 years old, 7years ago she told me she no longer had an interest in sex, so,it has been 7 dry years, she told me I was free to,find someone to have sexy with!! If physical intimacy is missing and one partner is complaining about it, you know theres something going on. Hopefully, you now know just what to work on, with the help of the reasons why your wife never initiates physical contact. For the months it was possible, I felt like a real man again, and much stronger at home and work. Cheating is easy and you deserve it. (Side note: why do women get to have multiple organisms?). We have not slept in the same room for years because of his snoring. He treats me like a food friend and we do get along otherwise. Gopa explains how it can be detrimental to your physical intimacy. How is she even going to want to have a relationship?. . We cant really talk about it because the very subject causes her great depression because she feels like its all her fault and that she is failure as a lover. I still love my husband because our relationship doesnt revolve around sex and we can show each other love and affection in many other ways. What shallow view of the problem. There has to be more than just telling people they should talk about it. If shes not in the mood neither am I . goodluck! I cant do that, divorce right away. 5. The man in solitary pleasure can flavour his immediate physical sensation with the remembrance of shared pleasures, whereas the woman in giving but taking no pleasure in sex finds her memories of shared pleasure to be sullied. For women its submitting to the protector of her choosing and bearing only his children. I have a consulting business in devlopment now, because Social Security isnt enough to save money. I was reading the original story and that exactly my life. Why waste your money and time on hookerd? Arguments and maltreatment are nothing to put up with. It pains Mike and me to hear that women can suffer this way too. Learn how your comment data is processed. Or simplify it by bringing home her favorite wine and dining on your patio after the kids are in bed. messages where she was being flirtatious to a local musician . When theres a disconnect and communication gaps that lead to resentment, the hostility will make itself apparent in some way or the other, says Gopa. So I backed off of seeing this person. Discuss it with her: Share this iMOM article with your wife and discuss it: 4 Things You Can Do When Youre Not in the Mood. You cannot force desire no matter what you do or if it is the other partner, same thing. So..
My Wife Doesn't Want Me to Touch Her Anymore - Goodguys2Greatmen I stumbled here because my wife shows or accepts zero affection , caring or appreciation. I dont care what age this happens to a man, somehow the blame goes to the woman for not looking her best,gaining weight, busy with the kids, not willing to give oral sex and the list goes on and on. Regardless of the reason your wife has pulled away from you, you must confront the situation. So the thing I hate hearing but rings true is once in the no sex zone you are not coming back in to it. Leaving her is not an option. She saw her doctor and prescribed a lube but it irritated her. It's a horrible feeling to want sex, but not want it with your partner. I have joint custody with my ex. The most affection I can show without her being irritated is spooning for a short period when were in bed Id better not move my hands to caress her! It literally saved my marriage and maybe my life. "There is also much more pressure on any sex youdohave since it's happening less frequently; it feels like there is much more at stake each time the two of you are intimate.
I realize that I really dont know your reasons for not wanting to be sexual with me whether it hurts you, or theres something Im doing or not doing. I agree 100%. A woman who feels that shes living with a man whocant regain her trust after cheating will most certainly have problems connecting with him on an emotional as well as physical level. . I had a client recently who was so angry at her spouse, she said she didnt want to have any physical intimacy with her husband, If he wants to get divorced, let him get divorced, she said. We seem to have fallen into a marriage without sex. . At 73, my 69 year old wife fits the descriptions you have provided to a T. Just replace you, the wife, with me, the husband. There's nothing wrong with the lower-libido partnerthey simply just don't want sex as often as the other person. After having surgery 2 years ago for testicular cancer my wife wont touch me. I too have never cheated. The idea that anyone has to resort to porn, masturbating or ignoring their own healthy needs and desires to actually connect skin to skin with their partner while exchanging looks and words of passion and enjoying, it is wrong. Im just trying to talk to her and it pisses her off anytime I bring it up Im tired of masturbating two to three times a week so I can focus on the everyday things Im going on 33 years of marriage and this started at 15 years. It also says that we are to make our bodies our patents, not ours. Come to find out my wife was getting hers on the side. Doing that just causes me to be resentful of her, and the fact that Im now reduced to doing this nasty little juvenile thing for myself. Please keep your eyes open for signs she is interested in someone else, such as being secretive, avoiding you, or hitting the gym. You work, cook, clean, fix, dont drink or do drugs! And one factor is being a caregiver. At 78 and after 47 years of marriage I kind of resigned myself to a sexless marriage.My rabbi was married over 55 years and said he had 4 good years sohe was not complaining.He also said over 90 percent of members of the congregation were miserable in their marriages.I guess he and I. Hello Dave, I feel I am too old to move on by myself, most everything in our relationship is good, but sex is very bad. If so, it could be that the side effects of her depression, or even the medication she is on to treat it, are lowering her libido. We still find a way a couple of times a month, but it took my husband a long time to not feel he was at fault.
EXACTLY!!! Dont know what todo he wont talk about his 60s, 70s. how do i tell him that in this life, especially for them both, there is more to life than just sex. My opinion only, so, most likely only worthy in my estimation. She said I was harassing her and that if I was so horny and needy, I should find someone else to relieve myself, but whatever, to stop harassing her. A subtle way of saying I will date outside the marriage. Depression, anxiety, stress, and other mental health issues are all linked to lower libido, as are some antidepressants. Sure. Yet we are burdened with the biologically and Darwinian drive to procreate. the women stop trying once you give them what they want. Is your husband on HRT as well? As someone who has now gone over 6 years without any contact more intimate than a hug I can tell you it is a relationship killer. Ive tried suggesting a date, but its hard to find something she wants to do or doesnt cost too much. I always aimEd to please her with oral sex preceded by lots of massaging, rubbing, kissing etc. Its not that hes a bad person hes not but at this point hes kind of like a zombie. Ive just seen this ,not sure when posted .ive tried so hard to get wife to have sex .she says menopause.then I gave up.but other we I had a beer and told her how I felt .silly beer a..so she been trying to start sex but my body has closed down to her .im worried ive turned off to her mentally.I do love her but shes noticed im not getting aroused like I used too .and now shes saying I prefer porn, but its how ive got by for so long.its really .mested up.im 53sorry. Will not do anything about it.. Refuses everything and anything to do with sex. Im too tired. So Mike, I dont know what to say. 57mwm here. I realized after marriage that I married her for the wrong reason, more of a rebound to fill something torn from me so abruptly, the love for my previous family(wife and children). For the past eight years it has been like I am married to my sister. About 10 % Love 90% Hate. . Regardless of the reason your wife has pulled away from you, you must confront the situation. Mostly sexless for ten years and when I talk to her she just says, Im not attracted to you anymore, so get a girlfriend. It may also help to learn about different forms of desire discrepancy. We tried and tried to get them to call us but their mother has convinced them that I am to blame for our sons death.